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How to choose a safe dating app — and your safety on Honne

By Honne Trust & Safety · updated 2026-06-22

What makes a dating app safe?

The single biggest safety lever is whether members are identity-verified before contact — not just age-checked. Look for selfie-match, controls that put the scarce side first, and a real human-review queue behind reporting. Honne is built around all three.

Women-first controls on Honne

  • Selfie-match before anyone can contact you.
  • No unsolicited messages — first contact is a request you accept.
  • Your photos stay blurred until you choose to reveal them.
  • One-tap block & report, reviewed by a real person.

If something goes wrong — where to get help

Block and report inside the app first. In Japan you can also contact the police consultation line #9110, the Consumer Hotline 188, or a local 消費生活センター. For romance-scam prevention, read how to spot a romance scammer.

See how identity verification works →